Ji FU commented on The Bible and Borders by M. Daniel Carroll R.
With so many people around the globe migrating, how should Christians and the church respond? …
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Trying to find a better way to track books I want to read than a random spreadsheet. I had used readinglog.info which was provided by my local public library until they shut down the program. Luckily, I regularly backed it up via their CSV export. I've used Library Thing for years, but adding books for "To Read" really screwed up a lot of the other features of the website, like recommendations, etc. I really love Free Software & the Fediverse particularly. My primary social media account is on Friendica @fu@libranet.de for now everything I post here is automatically "re-tooted" there.
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Ji FU reviewed Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for …
It may be too soon to know if this book is good or not.
3 stars
I think this is one of those books that is going to take me a while to see if I actually liked it or not, depending on how well I remember its lessons, and how useful it is to implement them. It took me two months to get through a 223-page book, not a good sign in and of itself.
There feels like a lot good here, emphasizing not punishment, but boundaries with consequences. We don't need to yell at our kids, we don't need to make them feel bad. Kids are responsible for their own fun. Kids are NOT responsible for their parents' feelings, etc. Parents are responsible for setting boundaries and sticking to them. It is better not to have a boundary at all than to have a wishy-washy one that sometimes has consequences and sometimes doesn't.
At times I felt it was a bit too harsh. For …
I think this is one of those books that is going to take me a while to see if I actually liked it or not, depending on how well I remember its lessons, and how useful it is to implement them. It took me two months to get through a 223-page book, not a good sign in and of itself.
There feels like a lot good here, emphasizing not punishment, but boundaries with consequences. We don't need to yell at our kids, we don't need to make them feel bad. Kids are responsible for their own fun. Kids are NOT responsible for their parents' feelings, etc. Parents are responsible for setting boundaries and sticking to them. It is better not to have a boundary at all than to have a wishy-washy one that sometimes has consequences and sometimes doesn't.
At times I felt it was a bit too harsh. For example, I think assumptions that entitlement is always bad sets one up for a life to be made a doormat. Claims that someone feels they have earned what their boss has, or being "envious of the upper class" is someone being a classist themselves. Why do they only call it class warfare when we fight back? I also didn't like their referral too frequently to "real life" as if the life of young people is somehow fake. They also seem to make some harsh assumptions that childhood always ends the day they turn 18. While many lessons are universal there was no reference to homeschooling and seemed to assume your kids go to public school.
Ji FU quoted Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for …
If someone else has given you this book and you don't know why, ask the five most honest friends you have and see what answers you get. As the saying goes, "If one person calls you a horse, tell them they're nuts. If five tell you, buy yourself a saddle!"
— Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend (Page 208 - 209)
Perhaps this should have been at the beginning.
Ji FU reviewed The Productivity Project by Chris Bailey
After earning his business degree, Chris Bailey turned down several lucrative job offers to pursue …
Some young kid tries to tell us old folks how to be more productive.
2 stars
I was pretty disappointed with this audiobook, though I probably should not be surprised by that. Usually, I prefer audiobooks that are read by the author, but Chris Bailey's voice is very grating. It's hard to take what he says seriously about how much he has to get done, when all he has to get done is write about productivity. The guy is a recent college graduate and has never had an actual job like the one's he describes. I'd like to see how productive any of these "life hacks" are once he's a few years older and managing a house full of kids.
While the book had some attempts at redeeming qualities, the little action items he adds to the end of each chapter is nice to actually get motivated to do it, however I'm not going to be able to review that whilst I'm driving. I did pick …
I was pretty disappointed with this audiobook, though I probably should not be surprised by that. Usually, I prefer audiobooks that are read by the author, but Chris Bailey's voice is very grating. It's hard to take what he says seriously about how much he has to get done, when all he has to get done is write about productivity. The guy is a recent college graduate and has never had an actual job like the one's he describes. I'd like to see how productive any of these "life hacks" are once he's a few years older and managing a house full of kids.
While the book had some attempts at redeeming qualities, the little action items he adds to the end of each chapter is nice to actually get motivated to do it, however I'm not going to be able to review that whilst I'm driving. I did pick up a copy of the dead tree too in hopes of being able opt reference it, and that worked better.
The one strategy he had that worked for me was writing down ON PAPER the three things I wanted to get done today before I start my work shift.
Ji FU quoted Fresh Floods by Kalki Krishnamurthy
Ponniyin Selvan is Kalki R Krishnamurthy's magnum opus, set in 10th century Tamil Nadu, exploring …
"I may have stayed at your palace just for a night, Kandamaaraa--but it's done me a world of good," Vandhiyathevan remarked casually, after a while. "I'm a little disappointed about just one thing, though. All those endless descriptions you gave of your sister's remarkable beauty on the banks of Vada Pennai--and I could barely catch a glimpse of her, last evening! All I could see when she peeped from behind her mother, was an eighth of her face. My friend, I'm frustrated! Thamizh girls ought to behave with decorum and a proper degree of bashfulness--but your sister has a little too much of them, I tell you!"
— Fresh Floods by Kalki Krishnamurthy, Pavithra Srinivasan (Page 82)
Oh Vandhiyathevan you scoundrel you!
Ji FU quoted Fresh Floods by Kalki Krishnamurthy
Ponniyin Selvan is Kalki R Krishnamurthy's magnum opus, set in 10th century Tamil Nadu, exploring …
"It was never my intention to accuse you of matrimony, My Lord. Who among us has bound himself to merely one wife, after all? And yet--yet--"
..."If it is any consultation, it was I" admitted Pazhuvettarayar he turned to Vanangamudiyaar. "Tell me--is it such a crime to take my lawfully wedded wife, who bears my thaali around her neck, wherever I go? It is true that I rarely stay away from her--but to accuse me of consulting her regarding state affairs is unjust. I have not done so, and never will."
— Fresh Floods by Kalki Krishnamurthy, Pavithra Srinivasan (Page 72 - 73)
10th century Indian royals, I tell ya.
@rainer@bookwyrm.social gotcha! Thanks for the reply.
Ji FU quoted Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for …
In this motivation part of boundary building with your child don't undervalue any of the three motives for good behavior we have discussed. Your child needs to be concerned about the pain of consequences for irresponsibility, the rights and wrongs of his behavior, and what pain his actions may cause for his friends and God. Be a parent who is subject to these motivations, and create many experiences for your child to internalize and own them for himself.
— Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend (Page 133)
@mouse@bookwyrm.social WTF? I'm a Catholic and I have heard many "interesting" symbologies over the years, but this one is beyond me.
@rainer@bookwyrm.social why would you want to dismantle technology?
Ji FU wants to read Black Beauty by Anna Sewell
Amazingly fast, incredibly strong, and fantastically gentle, Black Beauty is a horse that touches the …
On hold at the public library
Ji FU quoted Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for …
Parents who do not say NO to their child's wish to be continually by their side are teaching him that he cannot exist on his own and that the world revolves around him. Later, the same child will not be comfortable allowing the one he loves to have her own sense of separateness, and he will try to control her.
— Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend (Page 117)
Ji FU quoted Taking Wing by Michael A. Martin
THE BEGINNING OF A NEW STAR TREK ODYSSEY
After almost a decade of strife against …
Riker beamed at Worf. 'Commander, one of my final acts as this ship's executive officer was to recommend you as Counselor Troi's replacement. Your sensitivity shows me that my judgment was sound.'
— Taking Wing by Michael A. Martin (Page 56)
Riker is such a kidder. One of the best Star Trek lines I have read in years!
@mikester@bookwyrm.social sounds great!
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Mikester reviewed The God Who Riots by Damon Garcia
🔥 so far
5 stars
Finished chapter two last week and the only reason I put it down is I’m reading it with a book club and want to remember it as we go. Otherwise I’d have probably not gone to sleep until it was done. Riveting!!