Ji FU quoted Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
If someone else has given you this book and you don't know why, ask the five most honest friends you have and see what answers you get. As the saying goes, "If one person calls you a horse, tell them they're nuts. If five tell you, buy yourself a saddle!"
— Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend (Page 208 - 209)
Perhaps this should have been at the beginning.