Ji FU quoted Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud
What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for …
If you never disagree witlh the person you love, something is terbly wrong. Some people are afraid to be themselves with another person. Such fear negates love. The Bible says that perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18). You can't really love someone with whom you can't be separate. That is, love does not mean losing yourself, but rather frees you and empowers you to be yourself.
— Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud (Page 50)